Long before we accepted our temporal existence, we knew the journey would not be easy and that we would be tried over and over again to prove our worthiness for Eternal Life. Every one of us knew what we would personally have to work through, and yet, we all accepted. Often times, it’s hard to grasp that concept as we face trials that seem overwhelmingly impossible to conquer while only being able to see the earthly perspective.
Finding hope seems unreachable, and joy is ever so distant. We are bombarded with anger, frustration, fear and sadness to name a few of the many emotions. We tend to feel sorry for ourselves and ask, “Why me? What did I do to deserve this?”
As we know, trials come in a vast variety of experiences and are all different and personal. Luckily for us, we know that our Heavenly Father loves us and even though we feel we have been faced with the impossible. We know he would never expect us to deal with something we could not overcome. He knows us better than we know ourselves, and most importantly, he trusts us to follow his plan. Continue reading →
I used to think that I had to do something amazing to help our loving Father in Heaven. It didn’t matter if this “amazing act” was done in the church or in the world. But it had to be done. I just didn’t know what.
Sisters and friends, let me save you your sanity and tell you a secret: this isn’t true. Important things are good and need to be done. But, those who have a lasting and eternal impact on standing for our Father in Heaven and His plans do so quietly and within their sphere of influence. They are the unsung heroes that the angels watch over.
You don’t have to change the world to change someone’s life. No organization you lead or leadership role you hold will have a greater impact on the world than that of the roles you hold dear in your heart.
Mother. Sister. Daughter. Friend. A daughter of God.
These roles are eternal where others will have an end. These are the roles that truly matter where all others will fail.
Let me share with you three ways how you are already standing strong in your life. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised to find that they aren’t as difficult as you might think. Continue reading →
At the recent Church History Symposium, historians expressed hope that every sister, in The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, would have these two books in their bookshelves: Daughters in My Kingdom and The First Fifty Years of Relief Society. These books “give roots” to our Relief Society. And as Kate Holbrook (one of the chief editors) said, “To understand where you are today, it’s important to understand where we’ve been before.”
Where Daughters in My Kingdom is a beautiful, simplified, as well as inspired volume of history, The First Fifty Years of Relief Society is a scholarly tome filled with original documents, letters, and journal entries. But, don’t let that scare you! These two books, used together, will serve as an incredible resource for women who desire to know how God works with his daughters, what He expects us to do, and just how much He cherishes each one. Continue reading →
Emmeline B. Wells was one of those rare people you had to admire and love. She was full of life, her voice was strong and persistent, and she was faithful to the very end. Her rarity also figured around her birth date—February 29th, 1828—a Leap Year.
You’ve all heard this important quote from Edmund Burke: “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” We live in a world where evil is rearing its ugly head and the question we are all asking ourselves is how are we going to make a difference this coming year?
One of the breakout sessions at the World Congress of Families XI, opened my eyes about feminism. Entitled “The Beneficial and Harmful Influences of Feminism”, it threw me some punches. Because feminism is multi-faceted, it was important to clarify that feminism, defined as women speaking up and speaking out for the right to vote and to have equal opportunity, was not going to be the discussion. While these are beneficial influences that have benefited and changed the world and certainly the lifestyle of many women, the discussion would focus mainly on the harm “radical feminism” has done against women.
Gail Ruzicka, who came from Utah’s Chapter of Eagle Forum, centered her thoughts on Feminine vs. Feminism. Feminists draw upon the acceptable idea that we must fight for strong women and their opportunity to speak up for themselves, but in actuality, they have a political agenda to change laws and traditional moral standards.
Feminists want to remove everything that represents our male counterparts, but “Feminine,” is the Biblical definition of a true woman. Continue reading →
Opening ceremonies for the World Congress of Families at the stunning Grand America Hotel began with pageantry as a procession of young adults from countries around the world entered, carrying flags from their native lands. A crowd of 3,000 gathered to listen to the some of the best and brightest pro-traditional family scholars, educators, psychologists, statisticians, researchers, politicians, religious leaders, Hollywood film producers, and United Nations policy advocates in the world. The Mormon Women Stand team is here this week to report on the events of this historic congress, and we wanted to share this powerful information with our nearly 40,000 followers in hopes that you, too, can join in standing for life and the traditional family.
Reporting from Mormon Women Stand: Jan Tolman, Bethany Packard, Angela Fallentine and Gina Holt.
Can you feel it? Can you feel the stirring in the air of something wonderful to come? I have felt a stirring within for a while now and it has caused me to seriously think about how I can do my part to be a light of influence in this world. About a year ago, a friend shared with me a quote from President Spencer W. Kimball:
“Much of the major growth that is coming to the Church in the last days will come because many of the good women of the world … will be drawn to the Church in large numbers. This will happen to the degree that the women of the Church reflect righteousness and articulateness in their lives and to the degree that the women of the Church are seen as distinct and different—in happy ways—from the women of the world.”
My friend and I wondered together if this prophecy concerned us. Imagine our surprise when President Russell M. Nelson declared in our recent conference that “You are the women he (President Kimball) foresaw!”  With that announcement by the Lord’s apostle, I burst into tears. You would think that such a statement would have me trembling in fear to know that such a responsibility lay on my shoulders, but it was the joy that Heavenly Father needed to use my very feminine gifts to “help prepare the world for the Second Coming of the Lord” that made me rejoice!
Isn’t that amazing? The Lord needs us, right here, right now, to put aside the things of the world and “take (our) rightful and needful place in (our) home, in (our) community, and in the Kingdom of God.” Wow. Alright sisters, let’s get to work! Continue reading →
The Relief Society Declaration says that we are women who find nobility in motherhood and joy in womanhood. What is nobility? Merriam-Webster’s On-line Dictionary defines nobility as the quality or state of being noble in character, quality, or rank. (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/nobility.) The word noble is defined as having, showing, or coming from personal qualities that people admire (such as honesty, generosity, courage, etc.) (http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/noble.) By those definitions, motherhood certainly is noble.
What is not to be admired about a good mother? In order to be a good mother, a woman must be of good character and quality. Motherhood is not only noble, but an art form. Mothers create not only the mortal body of their children, but more importantly, their character. They mold their children like a lump of clay into responsible adults. That’s art!
The world would have us believe that motherhood is somehow demeaning, or at least not worthy of attention. Women are delaying having children into their mid and late 30’s. Having children seems to be something women do only when their biological clock begins to run out—something they feel they should do just for a new adventure, or because they’re bored with life and want a new challenge. Raising children is no longer what young women aspire to do. I find that very sad.
As a child, I always wanted to be a mother. There were other things I wanted to do, but mother was always at the very top of any list of goals. I held motherhood up on a pedestal (where it rightfully belongs).
Mothers, cherish that role that is so uniquely yours and for which heaven itself sends angels to watch over you and your little ones. Yours is the work of salvation, and therefore you will be magnified, compensated, made more than you are, better than you are, and better than you have ever been. And if, for whatever reason, you are making this courageous effort alone, without your husband at your side, then our prayers will be all the greater for you. Know that in faith things will be made right in spite of you, or more correctly, because of you. We thank all of you, and tell you there is nothing more important in this world than participating so directly in the work and glory of God (Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, Motherhood: An Eternal Partnership with God, lds.org).
Cherish the role—I love that phrase. Motherhood is something we should cherish. I totally relate to Elder Holland’s statement that mothers will be “made more than [they] are, better than [they] are.”
When I was raising my children, there was a new challenge every day. Each challenge brought opportunity for growth—mine; not theirs. I’m not a person who is known for patience, yet I learned to be much more patient (not that I’m still not striving in that category). Some women are born to be mothers, and some of us have to learn to be mothers. I was the latter. My children taught me how to mother. They made me “better” than I was before I had children.
Is it possible to find joy in womanhood? All around us we are told that women should be unhappy just by virtue of the fact we are women. We are told how men have every advantage over women. So how could we possibly find joy in womanhood? I come from a long line of strong women. We can hold our own. Yes, history has not been kind to women. History has not been kind to a lot of different groups of people. That shouldn’t sour life’s pleasures. If injustice is done, one should pick herself up by her bootstraps, slap a smile on, and find joy in being herself.
One of the greatest of all God’s revelations is Father Lehi’s teaching that “men are, that they might have joy.” (2 Ne. 2:25.) Joy is more than happiness. Joy is the ultimate sensation of well-being. It comes from being complete and in harmony with our Creator and his eternal laws (Elder Dallin H. Oaks, Joy and Mercy, Oct. 1991 General Conference).
I would agree with Elder Oaks that joy comes from being completely in harmony with God and His eternal laws. It is important to follow modern-day prophets so that we know what is in conformity with those laws. If we are always murmuring and complaining about injustices in the world, we tend to listen less and fight more. It is one thing for women to stand up for our equality, and quite another to be ungrateful for our very womanhood. The fight for equality has turned into a bashing of our eternal counterparts. That is not in conformity with God’s laws. Contention is not joyful. Gratitude is joyful. Rebellion against God’s prophets does not make joyful hearts. Submitting to the Father’s will not only brings joy, but spreads joy. It is my prayer that we all find nobility in motherhood and joy in womanhood. I cherish my femininity.