Recently, in response to a pro-life bill passed in a southern state, Hollywood erupted in protest threatening to pull their industry from that state unless a woman’s ultimate right to decide what happens to her body was fully restored (code words for they want unfettered abortion). As part of this uproar, a new hashtag was born: #SexStrike. Many who make their living in front of the camera are encouraging females to show their power by refraining from having sexual relations until they are given full autonomy over their bodies and their reproductive rights.
At first glance, I thought… well, I won’t tell you what I thought… but on taking a second look, I decided that this movement, a call to abstain from sex, might be something I could fully get behind, with a couple of twists.
Twist #1 – Sex has a Sacred Purpose
Our bodies are a gift from our Heavenly Father. He designed them perfectly and specifically for His sons and daughters. Part of our body’s purpose is to create bodies for His spirit children in partnership with Him. To help that process along, He designed physical desires for intimacy between men and women. These desires are natural and beautiful and strong. But God has given strict parameters on how and when those feelings may find their full expression – only between a man and a woman, and only after marriage.
Because the stakes are so high in the use of our procreative power, any use outside of those boundaries is sinful in His sight. As The Creator, the giving and ending of life are His alone to prescribe and control.
The first commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.
We declare the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan.
Human sexuality is a beautiful part of our physical experience here on earth and our bodies are made for it. But we are not to be sexually intimate with someone until we are ready to employ that power in the way God intends it to be used and enjoyed.
Twist #2 – Abstinence is the epitome of control over our body and reproductive rights.
If women, or men, want to claim real power over their bodies and reproductive abilities, might I suggest controlling those urges to be sexually involved outside the limits the Lord has commanded?
Sure, media tells you everyone is doing it, and they very well may be, but it takes no real strength to follow the crowd or go along with what society is telling you is acceptable, natural, and normal. Have some self-control. We are not animals. We can think and reason and choose. You do not give in to every other urge you feel. You are supposed to be in control of your body, not the other way around.
Abstinence is not impossible as most argue. It is the truest sign of power and control, of self-respect and respect for others. It is conforming to God’s will versus indulging in our own carnal desires. It is a beautiful, fulfilling thing to save that fullest expression of love and trust for the one you choose to spend your entire life and the eternities with. It is a gift and part of you that no one else will ever know but them. There is nothing as strong and powerful and glorious as that to me.
A New Hashtag
A #SexStrike doesn’t really speak to my beliefs about the origins and purpose of our sexuality. But, hey, I’m all for anyone suggesting a halt to sexual relations outside of marriage, even for their incredibly horrible reason.
Perhaps better hashtags to express my feeling about having true power and autonomy over our bodies and our reproductive rights might be:
My reasons for suggesting a stop to, or for not beginning sexual intimacy according to God’s laws, won’t be popular with most of the red carpet crowd. I’m ok with that, and you can be too. We are Daughters of God, and knowing that, gives us true power over our bodies and reproductive ability.