Every June, the LGBT community and its supporters engage in a month-long celebration of “Gay Pride Month”, filling social media with rainbow profile pictures, flying rainbow flags, and gay pride festivals and parades. Support for same-sex marriage is visible even with some of those who are members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. With its legalization in June 2015, like those in the Book of Mormon, we observed “that they had altered and trampled under their feet the laws … which the Lord commanded … and they saw that their laws had become corrupted” (Helaman 4:22) and “this was alarming to the people of the church, and also to all those who had not been drawn away after the persuasions” (Alma 2:3).
Some members of the Church have also been “drawn away after the persuasions” of the world and support same-sex marriage. However, they may not fully recognize that their support for it inadvertently supports serious sexual sin. These relationships are (and always will be) incompatible with the doctrine and standards of the gospel of Jesus Christ. To this point, we may be asking ourselves, “So why is this particular sin supported by more members of the Church than any other type of sin? Is there any other sexual sin that’s supported like this one? What is it about this one that many seem to be so comfortable with supporting and affirming, but not others?” The answer to these questions is sobering: gay marriage has become a protected class of sin.
With the weight of our culture bearing down upon us, some in our wards and stakes have been convinced that same-sex marriage and homosexual relationships are somehow different and more acceptable than any other sin. By separating it from the list of more pedestrian and culturally-inappropriate sins (pornography use, drug and alcohol abuse, adultery, etc.) people feel justified in accepting and even condoning it. Perhaps this is how some in the Church feel okay—perhaps even noble—about supporting same-sex marriage. People are making special allowances for this sin that they would never make for any other sin.
Same-sex marriage as a protected class of sin.
Pause for a moment and consider if there is any other sexual sin that is so widely accepted or affirmed by some members of the Church (or even other Christian faiths) as same-sex marriage and homosexual relationships. The next time you come across an article, meme, post or conversation in support of it, try substituting “same-sex marriage” with another sexual sin in its place (LDS.org lists adultery as an example.) Substitute “gay marriage” or “gay relationships” with “adultery” into any post, article or conversation about same-sex marriage and see how fast it changes things. In fact, try substituting “gay marriage” with any other sin and see what happens. It’s an interesting exercise. It shows just how desensitized we have become to this particular sin. We are making special allowances for same-sex marriage and relationships that we would never make for other ones. It’s difficult to find anything in comparison and nothing is granted so much leniency. Why is this so?
For this LDS audience, we are taught by prophets and apostles and the scriptures teach that sexual sin is among the most serious of all sins. All sin is not created equal. Sexual sins are treated with more weight. With this issue, perhaps condoning and accepting is easier and less risky than speaking truth in our wards and stakes (even if done in love.) We may not want to come across as unkind, unloving or judgmental, so we avoid difficult conversations with fellow Church members when these issues are brought up. We’re often unsure (or perhaps afraid) of how to teach truth with kindness. Yet by not teaching this, we do so at the peril of allowing false doctrine to be accepted as truth in our families, classes or callings.
Of this, Elder Christofferson taught:
There’s no kindness in misdirecting people and leading them into any misunderstanding about what is true, what is right, what is wrong, what leads to Christ and what leads away from Christ.
As members of the Church, we are responsible to teach the gospel of Jesus Christ and to illuminate the great blessings that flow from heeding God’s commandments as well as the inevitable consequences of ignoring them. We invite you to pray that people everywhere will have their hearts softened to the truths of the gospel. (link)
Same-sex marriage is institutionalized sexual sin.
Important side note before proceeding: Many quote the Salt Lake Tribune article discussing an interview Elder Christofferson had on KUTV (link), indicating that it is “okay for members to support same-sex marriage”. However, they use words of an apostle to dismiss the absolutely crucial connections to the doctrine and standards that Elder Christofferson also teaches in that same interview. He never once said that “gay marriage is okay” but that there are “differing opinions” on the subject. There is an eventual hope and expectation that, at some point, one will come into alignment with the teachings of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. If we are not very careful, we will think it means we’re being given a license to support serious sexual sin and abuse the words of an Apostle. Let us not use this to justify homosexual activism or support for gay marriage. Rather, let us teach true doctrine and principles in order to help change attitudes, beliefs or behavior. An accurate understanding of Church doctrine is necessary in order to remain fully grounded in the gospel while living in a society that is so deeply opposed to it.
With new laws and changes in public policy bringing it to the forefront, we are seeing an increase of support for same-sex marriage within our wards and stakes (particularly within the rising generation and their peers.) Herein lies the doctrinal deception and great misunderstanding by so many wonderful members of the Church: supporting and affirming same-sex marriage is supporting and affirming something, directly or indirectly, that is also a serious sexual sin and an act of apostasy. This becomes clear when viewed through the lens of doctrine, standards and eternal truths.
In The Church Handbook of Instructions, The First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve Apostles directs that a disciplinary council is mandatory for members in same-sex marriages and lists same-sex marriage as an act of apostasy. They also teach that “adults who choose to enter into a same-gender marriage or similar relationship commit sin that warrants a Church disciplinary council.” (link) In conjunction with this, Elder D. Todd Christofferson taught “same-sex marriage as particularly grievous or significant, serious kind of sin that requires Church discipline” (link), while also noting what Elder Dallin H. Oaks taught about it: “Applying the First Presidency’s distinction to the question of same-sex relationships, we should distinguish between (1) homosexual (or lesbian) “thoughts and feelings” (which should be resisted and redirected), and (2) “homosexual behavior” (which is a serious sin)” (link).
This direction and counsel should give us reason to pause and carefully examine what we support. It’s something that may be difficult to understand, particularly for youth or young adults of the Church who are immersed in it as part of their culture. We will need to help them to understand, ever patiently and lovingly, that warning and teaching about the sin of same-sex marriage is, indeed, “preaching what we practice“.
In summary, a good rule of thumb for dealing with difficult issues is this: If it’s where the Church doctrine and the prophets and apostles stand, then it’s where I need to stand. The Lord’s side of the line is always the right side of the line.
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