Journey to Legalize Same-Sex Marriage Has Prepared Mormons for Future

temple marriageImmediately following Friday’s decision by the Supreme Court of the United States that legalizes same-sex marriage in all 50 states, without fanfare The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormon) stood as a beacon of light in how faithful members of the Lord’s Church should stand stating that LDS doctrine about marriage will not change.

Mormon Newsroom: Supreme Court Decision Will Not Alter Doctrine on Marriage:

“The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints acknowledges that following today’s ruling by the Supreme Court, same-sex marriages are now legal in the United States. The Court’s decision does not alter the Lord’s doctrine that marriage is a union between a man and a woman ordained by God. While showing respect for those who think differently, the Church will continue to teach and promote marriage between a man and a woman as a central part of our doctrine and practice.”

Although the complete legalization of gay marriage in the United States has seemed like a long journey, members of the LDS Church are well prepared for the days ahead. We’ve made covenants. We know the doctrine. We know the Lord’s position on the matter because Prophets and Apostles, who we believe are inspired by God, have counseled and taught us both the doctrine and to love those with differing views. Many have sincerely prayed for personal understanding and help to know how to navigate this issue on many different levels—both within and outside of the Church and in our families. We’ve got this!

Surely, there could not be a more pertinent reason for God to have representatives on the earth today than to ensure that eternal truth relating to the family is available to every humble seeker of light. We live amidst the greatest moral confusions in the history of the world where right and wrong have literally been turned inside out. Many good people find it nearly impossible to distinguish truth against the continuous onslaught of politically correct immorality, let alone stand for it. However, as members of the Lord’s Church, we need not be confused by what is packaged in opposition to the Lord while some choose to disregard and even celebrate these temporal victories.

Marriage is ordained by God, only between and man and a woman. Period. This is love—not the current lie perpetrated in an unconstitutional motion by a handful of activist judges sadly found in nearly every state and by a few justices in the highest Court of the land. Don’t be fooled.

Beginning today, people who believe in moral absolutes and/or base their life’s determination upon eternal truth are about to face a historic challenge in buffeting being labeled as bigots, religious zealots, and/or fanatics, which will occur with increased frequency. Less than 10 years ago, today’s reality would have been the stuff of your worst nightmare.

These pertinent thoughts from Elder Quentin L. Cook from an address, “The Rewards of Righteousness,” delivered at BYU Women’s Conference on May 2, 2014 and published in the July 2015 Edition of the Ensign, Reaping the Rewards of Righteousness:

“The difference today is that the “great and spacious building” (1 Nephi 8:31) skeptics are louder, more contentious, and less tolerant than at any time during my life. They evidence their diminished faith when, on many issues, they are more concerned with being on the wrong side of history than on the wrong side of God. There was a time when the vast majority of people understood that they would be judged by God’s commandments, not by the prevailing views or dominant philosophies of the day. Some are more concerned about being mocked by others than they are about being judged by God.”

If upholding and valuing God’s teaching about marriage renders people of faith on the wrong side of history, then so be it. We know that, too, is a lie. What those who choose to see us in a negative light don’t understand, or refuse to accept, or simply respect, is that our position is not one of fanaticism, judgment, or hate, but of love and trust. Our position on marriage is not our own, but God’s—the very Author of life. So stellar is His position, that it is impossible to reject it—the biology is absolute fact. If it were possible, the perpetuation of the human race would be damned.

God ordained marriage is a spiritual and physical revelation, thus cannot be converted into a manmade definition. It is a complementary relationship with a resulting intent to produce children. Thus the natural family makes its appearance. It is how God intended children to be born and raised, and it is what is best for children. The birthright of every child born is inherent in their conception: a mother and a father. Whenever possible it is the duty of society to ensure that every child is raised by a mother and father. If society refuses to do their job, then people of faith must be willing to continue to teach their children the truths of the gospel concerning the family.

I firmly believe that the lie of same-sex marriage will be devastating to untold numbers of children whose inherent right to a mother and a father has now been stripped by the United States Supreme Court. Truly, this is one of the most violent acts of selfishness the world, thus far, has ever witnessed. Although my marriage is just fine and will be, any other assurances of how same sex marriage will affect untold generations are completely off the table.

Nearly 20 years ago the inspired document “The Family: A Proclamation to the World” was published and warned individuals, communities, and leaders of nations of the devastating results of not adhering to God’s counsel on the family:

“WE WARN that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.

 WE CALL UPON responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.”

God-ordained marriage requires no government sanction, but great blessings are promised as it is supported and honored. No government, in reality, can declare it obsolete or redefine it. Because we understand this, we trust that whatever is happening in the world right now to try and undermine the great plan of salvation will ultimately fail. Just as every knee shall bow and every tongue confess that Jesus is the Christ, so too shall they who currently oppose His Plan concede that the only way to experience eternal joy is within a marriage according to absolute truth.

I hope these words from an Apostle of the Lord will give you strength and needed encouragement at this time and in the coming days to stand with Jesus Christ and His chosen servants.

Elder Neal A. Maxwell:

“Make no mistake about it, brothers and sisters, in the months and years ahead, events are likely to require each member to decide whether or not he will follow the First Presidency. Members will find it more difficult to halt longer between two opinions. (See 1 Kgs. 18:21.) President Marion G. Romney said, many years ago, that he had ‘never hesitated to follow the counsel of the Authorities of the Church even though it crossed my social, professional or political life’ (in Conference Report, Apr. 1941, p. 123). This is a hard doctrine, but it is a particularly vital doctrine in a society which is becoming more wicked. In short, brothers and sisters, not being ashamed of the gospel of Jesus Christ includes not being ashamed of the prophets of Jesus Christ! We are now entering a time of incredible ironies. Let us cite but one of these ironies which is yet in its subtle stages: We will see a maximum, if indirect, effort made to establish irreligion as the state religion. It is actually a new form of paganism which uses the carefully preserved and cultivated freedoms of western civilization to shrink freedom, even as it rejects the value essence of our rich Judeo-Christian heritage.”

“Your discipleship may see the time when such religious convictions are discounted. M. J. Sobran also said, ‘A religious conviction is now a second-class conviction, expected to step deferentially to the back of the secular bus, and not to get uppity about it’ (Human Life Review, Summer 1978, pp. 58–59). This new irreligious imperialism seeks to disallow certain opinions simply because those opinions grow out of religious convictions. Resistance to abortion will be seen as primitive. Concern over the institution of the family will be viewed as untrendy and unenlightened.”

“Before the ultimate victory of the forces of righteousness, some skirmishes will be lost. Even in these, however, let us leave a record so that the choices are clear, letting others do as they will in the face of prophetic ounsel. There will also be times, happily, when a minor defeat seems probable, but others will step forward, having been rallied to rightness by what we do. We will know the joy, on occasion, of having awakened a slumbering majority of the decent people of all races and creeds which was, till then, unconscious of itself. Jesus said that when the fig trees put forth their leaves, ‘summer is nigh’ (Matt. 24:32). Thus warned that summer is upon us, let us not then complain of the heat!” (Elder Neal A. Maxwell, “A More Determined Discipleship,” Ensign (Feb. 1979)).

How grateful we are for the Great Plan of Happiness and the knowledge we have about marriage, its purpose, and eternal families. I can honestly say that as a member of the Church I never anticipated the days we are now experiencing. I am committed, with love for others and the many differences we might have, to rise to the challenge given us by our Savior Jesus Christ to live His gospel with love and conviction—and above all, without fear.

Elder Wilford W. Andersen, Of the Seventy, “Religion and Government,” July 2015 Ensign:

“One day the Savior will come again. It is His right to rule and to reign as the King of kings and as our great High Priest. Then the scepter of government and the power of the priesthood will be combined into one.

Until that great day, religion and government must walk down the path of human history hand in hand—each respecting the other’s independence, each appreciating the other’s essential contribution.”

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Kathryn Skaggs

Kathryn Skaggs

Mormon Women Stand, Founder. Kathryn's online work includes blogging at 'A Well-Behaved Mormon Woman' sharing personal thoughts about Mormonism, traditional marriage, family and some current events. She is a pioneer in using social media to "noise abroad" the gospel of Jesus Christ. She particularly enjoys gathering like-minded members to join her in standing for truth and righteousness. Kathryn has been married to her eternal companion, Bob, for 38 years and together they have raised five children. Currently, they are enjoying their 13 grandchildren.
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27 thoughts on “Journey to Legalize Same-Sex Marriage Has Prepared Mormons for Future

  1. Tamara

    Oh how I have needed this article today. Thank you. Thank you. I am so grateful for the leaders of the Church, for prophets, seers and revelators, scriptures of old to guide us through the unfamiliar waters we must raft through.; but most of all a loving Father in Heaven who is ever present to guard and help us.

  2. bonbon

    Thank you! Your words combined with the words of our prophets speak peace to my soul. Keep standing lady and please know that there are many standing with you always.

  3. Rach

    Not sure how I came across this article, but it was very needed. Thank you for reminding us.

  4. Diane Davidson

    I felt sad and discouraged yesterday. Even woke up feeling kind of down and dark this morning…wondered why, then remembered that my deeply held conviction that God’s laws have been treated as naught and my determination to continue to believe His word makes me a target for intolerance. That explained my gloomy feeling. Then I remembered many of His promises and previously experienced joyous moments and the cloud began to lift. Reading your article helped bring back more of the sunshine. Thanks!

  5. Josh

    I’m fascinated by the constant repitition in LDS rhetoric on this subject. “Our doctrines haven’t changed…our doctrines haven’t changed…our doctrines haven’t changed.”

    When is anyone going to start saying useful, interesting things? Did you think the masses woke up yesterday and thought to themselves, “I wonder if LDS doctrine has changed because of the Supreme Court ruling?”

    Maybe it’s because Mormonism has nothing to add to the conversation but vain repetitions?

    1. Kathryn Skaggs Post author

      If you are referring to re-iterating the words of Prophets and Apostles as “rhetoric” I’m sorry for you. Here at MWS when God’s leaders speak we take their words serious and feel strongly about amplifying their messages. What I’ve shared here is very current and should be of great value to all who follow the Prophet. By the way, if you’re a member, how many times have you read the Bible or the Book of Mormon? Once, I think.

    2. Stuart

      In a world where change has become the order of the day, even various Churches are changing their doctrines and teachings to the point where yesterday’s moral standings no longer apply in today’s world. It becomes difficult in the multitude of different voices for Gods children to know what is morally correct within this ever shifting tide of different ideas and teachings.
      The Church of Jesus Christ is an anchor of stability, a rock of certainty, a constant light shinning in an ever darkening planet. When we repeat time and time again to the world that our teachings, doctrines and moral standing have not changed, we are showing those out there who want constancy amid change that we are immovable and not tossed to and fro by every wind of doctrine that besets many other churches out there. Our goal posts are not moving about with changing public opinion. We have a sure foundation and source of our teachings and we call on all those who wish to raise their families in righteousness to heed the call of the church that our moral standards are sure and unwavering and fixed and immovable . Right remains right and wrong remains wrong and is non negotiable. The Lord has repeated his teachings many times through various prophets and declared time and again “Keep My Commandments”, “Repent ye, repent ye” and “Remember, remember” this explains something about the nature of man that Gods word has to be repeated over and over again because we are in many respects hard hearted, stiff necked, and slow to remember our God. He repeats Himself for our own good, at the end of the day.

    3. Elaine Wright

      I’m thankful for the repetitions and don’t consider them vain. It is so comforting to know the doctrines of the church won’t change with every wave of the breeze. I consider that to be farther proof of it’s divinity. A constant in this crazy world we live in.

    4. K Lynne Gates

      Do you remember your years in grade school? How did your times-tables (as well as all the other tables) get firmly rooted in your head so you would be able to move to the more advanced mathematical concepts?
      REPETITION is the most effective way to learn ever discovered for the vast majority of humanity and there’s nothing vain about it.

  6. Red

    I should have known the work of Kathryn Skaggs. There is a familiarity of conviction that struck me when reading this post. It’s good to read your work. God bless 😉

  7. Geoff Smith

    Thank you for this article. Great reminders for all of us who follow the living prophets and apostles. I don’t know what trials to our faith await us because of this ruling, but I’m up for it. “Fear not, for they that be with us are more than they that be with them.” 2 Kings 6:16

  8. Tori

    Thank you for this and other articles you have written. They are a balm to my soul. There are 2 things, concerning the Supreme Court’s ruling that trouble me most, one being the blatant disregard for the balance of governing powers laid down by our Forefathers in the Constitution and the other is the horrendous affect this will bring upon children. It is they who are the real victims in all of this. Now children will be treated as commodities and will be ripped away from their right to their biological mother and father all in the name of entitlement and equality.
    I had the opportunity recently to visit the beautiful country of Czech Republic. In Prague they have a museum of Communism which details the Soviet’s rise to power and occupation in their country. Many of the things I read were right in line with what is happening in our country now. It wasn’t a happy time in history and they still suffer affects from it to this day.
    How profoundly grateful I have become for the Gospel of Jesus Christ. I think I’d live on an island away from everyone and everything in fear of the world today if I didn’t have the Gospel. The promises of peace and protection from the Lord are what I hold on to in these uncertain times.

  9. Liz

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and the words of so many of our Apostles and Prophets! It is certainly time to take a stand for our Beliefs and Yet be loving and accept others for theirs. It sounds so simple, yet even within the simple but very diverse beliefs within my own family there are those who think this ruling is a WIN. It’s such a sad feeling to see it being taught to our grandchildren. We hope to be a light and example of the truth and teach them the correct principles of Marriage and the gift of families here on earth.
    Thank you again for sharing your gift and talent of writing!

  10. Annie

    Indeed, the eternal truth that ‘marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God’, is absolute and timeless. Sadly, the world has changed and distorted it in the cloak of human rights and equality for all. But I am grateful that as LDS women we know can always continue to ‘let our light shine before men’ and uphold the institution of marriage even if the world thinks otherwise. We are on the Lord’s side, even if we stand alone, He is our greatest advocate and support — we need not fear!

  11. Joelle

    Thank you for your article. I have been praying the past few days for understanding of where I fit in these last days as I watch the world change and the gulf between following the Lord and following the world becomes bigger and bigger. I find people who I thought had the same beliefs as me don’t and I was feeling alone in my testimony. This article reminded me that the Lord is in charge, and listening to the prophet will get us through this. I was overwhelmed today with the understanding of Alma and Nephi and the prophets of old in the Book of Mormon who’s souls were troubled at the transgressions of the people and their stiff-neckedness, because that is how my soul has been. I am just sad that so many are choosing the lies of the world instead of the the truths of the Lord. Thank you again for your message!

  12. Mai

    Thank you for your thoughts! This is indeed a great reminder. Thank you for standing up for what you believe and defend our faith! There will surely come a time when members will need defend their faith, family and country like Captain Moroni did.

    I know there are people who think our doctrine is repetitious and outdated. I think there is WISDOM behind repetition and I am thankful for it. Human beings are forgetful, foolish and slow to remember their God. It takes a lifetime or beyond to learn spiritual things but to learn worldly things it takes a second or minutes- just follow what everyone is doing.

  13. Matt Hale

    Excellent article! Very well written and so timely and important. Through all the troubled waters we might need to tread, we must always remember to be “humble, and be submissive and gentle; easy to be entreated; full of patience and long-suffering; being temperate in all things; being diligent in keeping the commandments of God at all times.”

  14. Lynne

    Thank you for this. While I know that there many, many people who stand on the right side, it’s easy to feel alone against the howling winds of iniquity. It’s so important to unite and stand together. Especially for our youth, who are struggling mightily to understand the principle of tolerance vs. acceptance.

  15. Karl

    Kathyrn, though I am taking issue with some of your blog, I agree in principle with much of it and appreciate the time and effort you have taken to make your opinion known. It’s good to talk.

    Quoting the blog: “I firmly believe that the lie of same-sex marriage will be devastating to untold numbers of children whose inherent right to a mother and a father has now been stripped by the United States Supreme Court. Truly, this is one of the most violent acts of selfishness the world, thus far, has ever witnessed.”
    First I’m troubled by the use of strong unsubstantiated words. I feel they are misleading. Is there data to support the statement above “truly”, “devastating” and “untold numbers”? And the statement, “one of the most violent acts of selfishness the world has ever witnessed”? How could anyone ever be qualified to make that statement? And, who really knows the heart of a gay couple that wants to raise children? Just for reference, I would posit that the act of divorce or pornography should be cause of more serious concern.
    Second, while the above issue may be of concern (gays raising children) and the implications of legalizing gay marriage to religious freedom troubling, I don’t understand why you are making such a huge issue in light of other equal or more important issues, in my opinion. If we really care about the children then why do we not publicly try and create laws to prevent or minimize all the other dysfunctional ways to raise children that we currently facilitate–we allow drinkers, smokers of pot, even drug addicts unless they are overtly public, bigots, divorce, pornography addicts, single moms, single dads, too young of couples, people who have no way to really care for their children–no jobs, poor child rearing skills or no basic ethics, and we already allow gay couples not married to adopt. So, why the big deal about a few more gay couples that are less than the ideal man and woman couple, but are most likely much better equipped than the above parties? And, what direct evidence do we have that same sex couples will do a poor job at parenting anyway? And, don’t cite the inapplicable indirect data included in the amicus brief the state of Utah and the Church sent to the Supreme Court which relied on data about families with only a single parent. In scientific analysis you can’t extrapolate that way and assume a single lone parent household is the same as a two person same sex household.
    So, if these things I’ve listed are a concern, then it seems inordinate that some are shouting so loudly and unequivocally about gay marriage for society as if its defeat is the last bastion of hope for all of society.

    Quoting the blog: “Marriage is ordained by God, only between and man and a woman. Period. This is love—not the current lie perpetrated in an unconstitutional motion by a handful of activist judges…most violent acts of selfishness the world, thus far, has ever witnessed.”
    What do you mean by “This is love” ? Are you saying that marriage not between a man and a woman is not love? How can one judge the hearts and souls of others relative to their feelings of love toward another?

    1. Kathryn Skaggs Post author

      And I appreciate many of your logical arguments. However, in directing my thoughts to specifically how children will be affected going forward with the broad legalization of same-sex marriage, and how that undermines the plan of salvation, I consider this sobering warning contained in the inspired document: The Family: A Proclamation to the World:

      “WE WARN that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.”

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