The Happiness Lie (Part 1)

“Adam fell that men might be; and men are, that they might have joy.” (2 Nephi 2:25)


“Life is to be enjoyed, not just endured.” (President Gordon B. Hinckley)


I recently came across an opinion that believed that enduring to the end contradicts happiness. This opinion believed that one can’t be happy while enduring; therefore, one must choose, and happiness (the world’s definition of happiness) is the better choice. Sentiments like this one are quite common today. Happiness has been redefined to meet the world’s standards. And according to the world, happiness redefined trumps following the Lord’s commandments.


I’m sure that most of us have listened to or read phrases such as, “Doing (fill-in-a-choice-contrary-to-the-commandments) makes me happy, and God just wants me to be happy” or “God would rather see me happy than force me to (fill-in-a-commandment-that-they-are-avoiding).” Of course our Heavenly Father wants us to be happy. The Plan of Salvation is also called The Plan of Happiness, and throughout the scriptures the message of the gospel is commonly referred to as “glad tidings.” But this idea that the world’s version of happiness is the kind of happiness that God intends for us is a lie perpetuated by Satan. Satan wants us to think that the temptations he is throwing at us will lead to true happiness. But that is not true. What leads us to true happiness can be found in the words of the scriptures and our modern day prophets, not in the philosophies of men.

As I studied the scriptures, I found that certain actions commanded by the Lord lead us to happiness. The first action that leads us to true happiness is having faith in the Lord. When we have faith, we put our hope in God (Psalm 146:5) and we put our trust in God (Proverbs 16:20, Psalm 64:10). We allow God to comfort us, and when He does, we will find “joy and gladness” (Isaiah 51:3). The Lord promises us that “in me your joy is full.” (D&C 101:36) Faith in God then leads us to the actions of following the commandments, serving others, and gaining knowledge; all actions which lead us to true happiness.


Proverbs 19:18 states that “…he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” In his iconic address, King Benjamin promises that those who keep the commandments will find themselves in a “blessed and happy state” and they will “dwell with God in a state of never-ending happiness.” (Mosiah 2:41) I can’t imagine a more happier outcome than dwelling with God some day. In order to find happiness in keeping the commandments we must have a desire to follow the commandments (Abraham 1:2). We must also be willing to be obedient (Isaiah 1:19) by giving the Lord our “heart and a willing mind” (D&C 64:34). We are promised that when we do these things, we will “receiveth a fulness” or an abundant life (D&C 93:27).  


Making and keeping our baptismal and temple covenants falls under keeping the commandments. We renew our baptismal and all other sacred covenants when we take the sacrament. In my personal experience, my Sunday, and my entire week tend to go better and I am happier when I have taken the sacrament. While we do not renew our temple covenants during future temple visits – we only go through once for ourselves – we are reminded of them when we perform proxy ordinances for the dead. I always leave the temple feeling happier and more at peace than when I entered.


But what about the claims that happiness can and has been found in living contrary to the commandments? The Book of Mormon teaches us that those who live such lives “have joy in their works for a season” (3 Nephi 27:11), however, “wickedness never was happiness” (Alma 41:10). Mormon wrote that in the end the Lord will not “always suffer them to take happiness in sin.” (Mormon 2:13) So, any happiness found outside of the gospel is essentially a facade created by Satan, it is a temporary happiness that will not last.


In the general Young Women meeting general conference April 1996 President Gordon B. Hinckley elaborated on this:


“[Heavenly Father] wants his sons and daughters to be happy. Sin never was happiness. Transgression never was happiness. Disobedience never was happiness. The way of happiness is found in the plan of our Father in Heaven and in obedience to the commandments of His Beloved Son, the Lord Jesus Christ.”


Serving others also brings us true happiness. In the 13th chapter of John, Jesus washed the feet of his disciples, and after doing so taught them this lesson:


“13 Ye call me Master and Lord: and ye say well; for so I am.


14 If I then, your Lord and Master, have washed your feet; ye also ought to wash one another’s feet.


15 For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to you.


16 Verily, verily, I say unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord; neither he that is sent greater than he that sent him.


17 If ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do them.”


These five verses set the standard for how and who we are to serve. Jesus, our master has served us, so we are then to serve others. Jesus said that neither servant nor master are greater, we are all equal. So our service should be to anyone and everyone. He ends with the promise that we will be happy if we follow his example. How does one find happiness in service? By serving out of love for the person we are serving. In D&C 52:40 we are commanded to remember “the poor and the needy, the sick and the afflicted.” Those of us who serve are counted as disciples of Christ.


Another aspect of service would be sharing the gospel with others. As mentioned at the beginning, the gospel is considered “glad tidings,” so if receiving the gospel makes us happy, it would be natural to want to share that happiness with others. In Lehi’s vision of the Tree of Life, Lehi tastes the fruit (the word of God, or the gospel) and his soul is filled with joy. Because of that joy Lehi said, “I began to be desirous that my family should partake of it also; for I knew that it was desirable above all other fruit.” (1 Nephi 8:12)


In the April 2017 general conference, Elder Yoon Hwan Choi, of the Seventy shared his family’s conversion story. His younger brother joined the Church first, and invited the rest of his family to join the Church. Elder Choi said, “we were happy to find the truth and wanted to share that happiness we found in the gospel of Jesus Christ after we were baptized.” He said that his father was the most excited to share the gospel with others. His father studied the scriptures before work, and went out with the missionaries after work to teach family, friends, and neighbors. After seven months, 23 more of Elder Choi’s family had been baptized into the Church! The following year 130 people had been baptized through Elder Choi’s father’s desire to share the gospel. Now, don’t feel discouraged if your personal missionary efforts don’t reap such numbers. To my knowledge I have not contributed to the conversion of a single person, and I have only contributed to the reactivation of one person. That being said, I share my testimony whenever I can. That’s what Heavenly Father asks of us, His Spirit will do the rest, along with all of us having the agency to choose to follow. And when we do share the truth, regardless of how it is received, the feeling that we get for bearing our testimony is happiness. I love sharing the gospel, it makes me so happy. When I am able to speak – or type – the words that the Spirit has inspired, my heart is filled with joy.


The happiness of hearing and sharing the gospel leads us to the desire to have knowledge. The prophet Abraham wrote that in finding “greater happiness” he desired to progress in many areas, knowledge being one of them (Abraham 1:2). As we find happiness in the gospel, our desire to better understand the gospel will increase, and as we seek that understanding through study and prayer, our happiness will continue.


I would like to emphasize what kind of knowledge I am talking about. I am referring to the knowledge of our Heavenly Father, Jesus Christ and His gospel. That knowledge will lead us to true happiness. I’m not trying to say that earthly knowledge is bad, it’s not. But without the knowledge of the gospel we can only go so far. The knowledge of the gospel completes all other knowledge. The knowledge that we gain will lead us to understand why we should pray, follow the commandments, serve others, and have faith. So all of these actions that lead to happiness are interwoven together, and it’s almost impossible to do one without doing the others.


Having faith, following the commandments, and serving others leads us to eternal life with Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. Like King Benjamin taught, dwelling with God is the true state of happiness, which is why the pathway to God is also the pathway to happiness. But what if you are doing all of these things and still feel sad, scared, and alone? That is where enduring to the end comes in, and will be discussed in Part 2.

This is Part 1 of a two part post. Part 2 will be published Monday, July 10, 2017.

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Chelsey Ortega

Chelsey Ortega

Chelsey Ortega is a wife and mother of three: a boy and two girls. She grew up in the Provo/Orem area of Utah and still lives there. In 2015 she graduated from Brigham Young University with a Bachelor of Arts in History Teaching coupled with a certification in TESOL (Teaching English to Students of Other Languages). Chelsey teaches English part time, and cares for her family full time. She loves reading, writing, dancing, and cooking; and is always looking for new books to read and new recipes to try. Chelsey writes about her family, faith, and other interests on her personal blog:
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Chelsey Ortega is a wife and mother of three: a boy and two girls. She grew up in the Provo/Orem area of Utah and still lives there. In 2015 she graduated from Brigham Young University with a Bachelor of Arts in History Teaching coupled with a certification in TESOL (Teaching English to Students of Other Languages). Chelsey teaches English part time, and cares for her family full time. She loves reading, writing, dancing, and cooking; and is always looking for new books to read and new recipes to try. Chelsey writes about her family, faith, and other interests on her personal blog:

7 thoughts on “The Happiness Lie (Part 1)

  1. Rozy

    I was just talking to one of our sons about this very thing when he was here for a family reunion. He is not actively participating in church and I was quizzing him to find out why, and what he believes. He believes in God, and Jesus Christ, but doesn’t seem to want anyone telling him what he can and cannot do. I felt inspired to use the analogy of when he was a little boy I told him not to touch the hot stove, or to be careful with knives, not because they were bad but that they could hurt him if not used properly. I knew what he needed to do and what to avoid so he’d be safe and happy. I could see the big picture, had more experience and such. Then I related that to how our Heavenly Father guides us. He has ALL knowledge and wants us to be safe and happy so he gives us commandments that will lead us to that state of being.

    Our son reluctantly acknowledged that I had made a good argument. I reminded him that he is a good man and can do much good in the world, and that, of course, I love him.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts too.

    1. Chelsey Ortega Post author

      What a wonderful lesson to teach your son! Thank you for sharing it. Applying our earthly parenting to Heavenly Father is a very strong way to help others understand His doctrine. 🙂

  2. Amy

    Dear Chelsey, thank you for this excellent article. My youngest son (19 years old) is struggling recently with his testimony after years of being a faithful follower of Christ. He has said these exact things to me. I have sent him your article and he has promised to read it. Often it is better to have the things I and his father have taught him reinforced by others. And you have reinforced our teachings, thoughts and feelings beautifully. Thank you so much for your inspired words. I hold out great hope that my dear son will soon remember and turn back to the Lord. We love him so much!

    1. Maria Allen

      I wanted to post my comment to your “Peace in Forgiving Those Who Don’t Apologize”, but there was no area to post my reply, so I am posting it here. I am always overcome how one can receive peace within when we strive to be more Christlike. I have learned how that feels when I strife to be more forgiving and compassionate towards others. I too have experience what it is like to forgive someone who I know will never show forgiveness or be forgiving. I honestly believe they either don’t care or they are too prideful to be forgiving, whichever it does not matter. The fact remains is there is inner peace when one is forgiving of others in spite of their faults. What matters most, is when one can look at themselves in the mirror and be truly happy. It is not boasting, it is more that we choose to do what’s right and pleasing unto our Father in Heaven. Forgiveness and being forgiving is a powerful tool and it is so worth it even if it may be hard. I would rather choose and be happy than to be miserable.

    2. Chelsey Ortega Post author

      Thank you so much! I hope your son likes it, and I’m glad you have such a relationship with him that you can talk about important things. You sound like a wonderful mother and your son will feel that love for him. 🙂

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