This world is full of jobs and careers. Jobs and careers that we get to choose. Recently I came across a video on YouTube that illustrated what the World’s Toughest Job is, and it is not what you would expect. This video proceeds to interview different people for a job and gives qualifications like no salary, 24 hours a day, and no breaks, not even to sleep. The World’s toughest job is then revealed to be: MOM.
24 hours a day, 365 days a year my mom wakes up, rolls over and begins her day. A day filled with taking care of others and being selfless. Not only is she a mother, but she is a caregiver as well. She cares for my dad. A 54-year-old man with Multiple Sclerosis who is bound to a wheelchair for the rest of his life.
How could she do that? How could she choose every day to dress him, tie his shoes, and even cut up his food at times? Doesn’t she know that makes her a weak woman? Doesn’t she know that caring for children on top of caring for a man is incredibly humiliating and degrading to her sex? Why by her own free will would she subject herself to something that is so taxing and demanding?
You as the reader may be thinking that this is another article on women or some feminist movement, and in a way it is. In another way it is an opportunity to be reminded–maybe even strongly reminded–about those women around you who may not always put themselves out there or join some radical feminist movement, but are always there to care for you, protect you, and stand up for you.
These are the women who are quietly strong. Women like my mother. She doesn’t need to degrade the opposite sex, support abortion, or other radical ideas on sexuality. She doesn’t need to fight to be treated like a man, because she knows that she is heard regardless of the gender difference. A strong woman is one educates herself. She doesn’t fight others with ignorance or hate. She takes care of her family not because she is forced to, but because she chooses to everyday.
For research and definition purposes I went to the Merriam-Webster dictionary site to get the definition of “Radical Feminism” only to find that “Feminism” was the only option defined. Interestingly enough Wikipedia was more than willing to give me a multiples section and page definition of Radical Feminism.
What is the significance, you may be wondering? The significance is that it can’t be fully defined. It is a political party with a liquid agenda, morals, and direction. The only thing we do know is about its continual fight against patriarchy and anything that deals with the family unit or being a mother. Why is it that a small group of women with man-hating issues snowballs into other women and forms a group that now in 2016 exists because they have hated and raged their way to be heard?
The year 2016 is not the year that women “take charge of their sexuality” or “stop listening to the dumber sex,” i.e., men. Why can’t 2016 be the year that women, instead of radically trying to change everything because they think they have been cheated, educate themselves? They would educate themselves on:
- what it means to be a feminist
- what it means to be a woman
- what it means to be a strong woman
- what it means to have knowledge in this world as a woman
Strong women is what the world needs right now. It needs women who take a stand for morals and for what is right. Being a strong woman means knowing the difference between being strong and demanding to be equal. Being a strong woman means that a woman knows that men and women are different, but that those differences should be celebrated and not shunned. A truly strong woman is who we all should look to, and who we all need to be.
Nicole McDanel is a student at Brigham Young University-Idaho, and is originally from Pleasant Grove, Utah. She is a Child Development Major with a love for advocating for women, and teaching children. She is currently a preschool teacher and loves every moment of it!
World’s Toughest Job, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HB3xM93rXbY
Lewis Ruth, Marine Susane B. “I’m in this for real” Revisiting young women’s feminist becoming. Women’s Studies International Forum. Volume 47, Part A, November-Devember 2014, Pages 11-22
Xuanqi Liu, Suzette Dyer, Revisiting radical feminism: Partnered dual-earner mothers’ place still in the home? Women’s Studies International Forum Volume 47, Part A, November–December 2014, Pages 1–10
Graphic: Margaret D. Nadauld, “The Joy of Womanhood” LDS.org