I quickly weary of all the male bashing from many women in society today. I don’t agree at all that females are demeaned by a gentleman opening a door for them, offering his arm or hand as a means to help steady their steps, or motioning for a lady to enter through a door before he does. To me those things are gallant and show respect. I do believe that women are as capable as men, but not divinely designed equally across the board. There are wonderfully intentional differences.
I tire even more quickly with the few shrill, or low murmuring, female voices from within the ranks of our Church members who feel they are diminished by the role God gave his daughters, not including the holding of His priesthood. The ‘bearing’ of children must be seen by them as somehow lesser than the ‘bearing’ of the priesthood. In this they are misguided at best. Each gender has a divine purpose assigned, as a son or daughter of God, as revealed in ‘The Family: A Proclamation to the World.’ As the Creator, God defined the proper and perfect roles for His children.
The ‘bearing’ we each do in our divine roles as women and men, requires the support of the companion and opposite role for its best success. Continue reading →
It’s dark at 5:45 in the morning, and teenagers were still sleepy. Very sleepy. Object lessons were one of my favorite attention getters to begin my Seminary lessons with. I knew this one would grab them and lead us into a lively discussion.
I selected a sweet young woman and one of the biggest athletes from our high school to join me behind a long table in front of the class, where I uncovered two large mixing bowls filled halfway with water, two aprons, two electric hand mixers, and one bottle of liquid dish soap. (Everyone was sitting up now.) I explained that we were going to have a race to see who could produce the most suds in 90 seconds. (Now they were all wide-eyed and giggling).
Both tied on their aprons. With much drama I squeezed dish soap into their bowls, handed each a mixer, and stepped safely out of the ‘wet zone.’ With, “on your marks…..get set…….go!”, I clicked the stopwatch. Each pushed their hand mixer to its top speed. “Help, Sister Packard! Mine isn’t working!” the young man yelled. “What’s the matter,” I asked. “I don’t know,” he yelled again, this time kind of jumping up and down. Meanwhile, right next to him the dainty little lady’s beaters whirred away and her bowl began to fill with white. In his jumping he noticed the cord of his mixer flinging around. “Sister Packard, it’s not plugged in!” “Well fix it, buddy,” I yelled back. (I had to yell because the class was laughing hysterically at this point). When he bent down to plug his cord into the electric socket he yelled again, “THERE’S NO PLUG ON THE CORD!” “What? You have no way to get power?:” I asked innocently. “What am I going to do?” he exclaimed. “I don’t know; figure something out,” I replied. So he pushed his beaters back into his bowl and began stirring them around as fast as his big football-strengthened arms could go, all the while glancing over at the waves of bubbles pouring over his challenger’s bowl out onto the table and over the table onto the floor. He managed some suds by the time I called, “Time!” (The class simply couldn’t have laughed any harder.)
(*No Church floors were damaged during this object lesson as I taught Seminary in my home). Continue reading →
Want a stronger testimony? You might try to simplify things by just living the basic doctrines of the gospel.
I remember the first time I felt like I was in over my head. I had just graduated high school and the bishop of our congregation, or “ward,” had invited me in to his office during Church. As we chatted about my plans for college and other things, he asked if I would accept a “calling,” or in other words, a church assignment. I was expecting him to ask if I would be the ward chorister or something. But instead, he asked me if I would accept the assignment to be the teacher of a group of teenage girls, or “Young Women,” in our congregation.
In the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, when a girl graduates from High School or turns 18, she stops attending the teenage girls’ classes, and attends the women’s class, the “Relief Society,” in the ward. I had been really looking forward to attending the women’s classes.
Here Am I, Don’t Send Me!
I was surprised, to say the least. Though I had already graduated, I was still seventeen, which meant that there could technically be a Young Woman in the group of girls who was older than I—the teacher—was. I felt very young and unprepared. I had never taught before. And to make things potentially even more strange, because I had just left the Young Women program, that meant that I was now expected to “teach” the peers and friends I had been in the program with for years! I felt very uncomfortable giving any kind of counsel in such a formal setting to girls that I loved to chat and hang out with. Would they think I was coming off as “holier than thou?” Would it change my friendships? Continue reading →
Mother, mothering, and motherhood: each is a facet of the beautiful and divine nature of every daughter of God. To separate one facet of our eternal role as women is to minimize our divine destiny made possible through the Atonement of Jesus Christ: eternal motherhood. The Family Proclamation teaches the eternal and absolute doctrinal truth that gender is eternal. Our spirits were created either male or female before our mortal birth. Femaleness is not a social construct but is both biologically and physiologically created and stored in the DNA of every female soul by loving Heavenly Parents.
“That women were born into this earth female was determined long before mortal birth, as were the divine differences of males and females. I love the clarity of the teachings of the First Presidency and the Quorum of the Twelve in the Proclamation on the Family. They state: “Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.” From that statement we are taught that every girl was feminine and female in spirit long before her mortal birth.” (Margaret D. Nadauld, “What You Are Meant to Be,” New Era, Oct. 2002.)
The simple, yet glorious truth is that because we are female, we are inherently mothers. The state of motherhood is gender specific and is what compels the acts of mothering in different ways and stages of our lives. For reasons unknown, not every woman here in mortality has the opportunity to give birth. The full glory of our divine nature as females will be when every facet of being a daughter of God is made manifest—having become as our Heavenly Mother: exalted. Continue reading →
All year our Stake President, under the direction of L. Tom Perry, has worked with our Area Seventy, Craig B. Terry, to teach about the priesthood to the men in each of the wards in our stake. They’ve taken the two hours after our Sacrament Meeting to talk about better training for the Aaronic Priesthood; allowing our boys to perform more of their responsibility.
These meetings with the men and boys have gone so well, it was suggested they have a similar meeting with all the women in each ward. This too has proven quite successful as women have gathered to learn about the priesthood and its value in all our lives. Plus, it is always a welcome bonus for Primary workers, Young Women workers, and Young Women to gather as an entire Relief Society unit.
I was happy with how the discussion went. First of all, the Stake President stated that priesthood and motherhood go together. I know feminists have argued against this idea before. They hate to think of women being “relegated” to motherhood, but the reality is that God depends on women to give birth to his children. His plan cannot work without us doing this most glorious work. And I truly believe it is mothers who have the most influence in the home to raise these heavenly children. So, as the discussion opened— Continue reading →
If you happen to be a feminist outside of the Mormon faith, it’s very likely that you believe one of the strongest critiques levied against The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormon): that its theology wreaks with gender inequality and the membership dominated by a chauvinistic male hierarchy – the priesthood. I’ll even go one further… I bet the original source of that misguided understanding is a Mormon feminist.
The reason I can say that with such confidence (and no ill-will intended, just a fact) is that the majority of LDS women do not share that misperception or experience; I am among that majority. Not that we don’t see room for improvement in general male/female interaction within the Church, subject to human weakness – we do. But, we don’t confuse occasional abuses with doctrinal teachings — the expectation. Important distinction.
I greatly appreciate section 121 of the Doctrine and Covenants. The Lord straight up exposes the tendency of every man, when given authority, to use unrighteous dominion in its administration. He also warned that to do so would be the end of a man’s priesthood power. Sadly, the natural man, in so many ways, chooses to ignore this admonition, and the tender hearts of the Lord’s daughters are the frequent recipients of such ignorance. However, this is not the way the Lord intended it to be, but rather, knowing full well this was going to be a problem, called it out. Continue reading →
There has been a swirl of talk in the blogging world about inequality in the LDS Church. As an LDS woman, this makes me chuckle. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has one of the the largest women’s organizations in the world. I have served in many callings in the Church, and have only been treated with respect by my counterparts in the priesthood. All of those callings came with responsibility—some of them with more responsibility than I felt capable of handling. Inequality in the LDS Church? No way!
When I was Relief Society President in my ward, I remember making a decision which was extremely unpopular with the sisters under my care. The Bishop could have told me to back off and stop making waves. Instead, he met with me, asked me my reasons for making the decision, and then backed me 100 percent. As a matter of fact, he came into Relief Society and basically reminded the sisters that I was in charge. He told them that they were going to have to change their ways and listen to my counsel. The Bishop was a federal prosecuting attorney and when he spoke, people knew he meant business. It was another year before the sisters began to understand the reasons and wisdom behind the decision. They also came to the understanding that it wasn’t my decision at all, but Heavenly Father’s decision through inspiration.
At the 2013 BYU Women’s Conference, Sister Linda K. Burton, General Relief Society President, gave a talk about the priesthood. She states, “We hope to instill within each of us a greater desire to better understand the priesthood. I testify that the Lord is hastening His work, and it is imperative for us to understand how the Lord accomplishes His work so that we may receive the power that comes from be aligned [sic] with His plan and purposes.”
Understanding the priesthood means also comprehending the complimentary role of women, and that inequality does not exist in God’s Church. Understanding the priesthood and its role in the lives of women is important; it helps us to serve better and to sustain our leaders—both male and female—more fully. All organizations have a division of labor and have clearly defined roles for their members; this alleviates confusion, gives everyone a clear purpose, and helps the purposes of the organization to be met in an efficient manner. God’s plan for His children also includes clearly defined roles. None of these roles is more important than another, but they are different in the tasks required. They have the same value and privileges.
The Relief Society Declaration says that we are women who sustain the priesthood as the authority of God on earth. Right out of the bag, I’m going to say that I personally sustain the priesthood as the authority of God on the earth. I stand with the prophet and the rest of the General Authorities. I am a covenant daughter of God, and I will not deny eternal truths.
My parents were baptized into The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints the same night that I was baptized. I was ten years old. Unfortunately, they did not stay active in the Church, so I was not raised with the priesthood in my home. However, there were men in our ward who were wonderful examples of stalwart priesthood holders. An older couple became our home teachers, and we all looked up to them and admired them. She was the perfect example of a faithful sister in Zion; he was the epitome of a faithful son of God who respected and honored the priesthood.
I was not an active member when I married my husband. Although I did not attend church, I always took comfort in the priesthood that he held, and I admired the way he honored the priesthood. We had wonderful home teachers through the years, who helped teach my children the gospel. They were also men who honored the priesthood which they held, and who were good examples to my children.
With a name like, McConkie, it’s relatively expected we would hear bold teachings from such a source. Sister Carol F. McConkie, did not disappoint. When Sister McConkie stood to deliver her address during the October 2014 General Conference she did so, clearly, with power and authority — she had my attention.