Category Archives: Motherhood

Mothers in the Scriptures

Motherhood isalt-lake-temple-pioneer-family-lds-770842-gallerys one of the most important aspects of the Plan of Salvation. Without it, none of us would be here in our mortal bodies. When discussing mothers and motherhood, I find it fitting to think about and study ancient women who serve as wonderful examples of what kind of mothers and women we should be. Although there are many wonderful women in the scriptures, I have chosen to highlight five: Eve, the Mother of Moses, Namoi, Mary the Mother of Jesus, and Sariah from the Book of Mormon.

Eve

Eve was the very first mortal mother on this earth. She was given the ability to bear children when she partook of the forbidden fruit and was cast out of the Garden of Eden with Adam. She was given the name Eve “because she was the mother of all living.” (Genesis 3:20) In fact, Eve means “life” in Hebrew.

We know from the book of Moses that Adam and Eve had many more children than Cain, Abel and Seth. “And Adam knew his wife and she bare unto him sons and daughters, and they began to multiply and to replenish the earth.” (Moses 5:2) The Book of Moses also goes into a deeper description of the type of woman Eve was. Moses 5:1 says that Eve labored with Adam. In verse 11 Eve says, “Were it not for our transgression we never should have known good and evil, and the joy of our redemption, and the eternal life which God giveth unto all the obedient.” Then in verse 12 Eve taught her children. Continue reading

Choices Have Consequences Part II

for mws4Working and Stay at Home Mothers

As the General Relief Society President, Julie B. Beck taught:

One of the questions that I get frequently is, “Is it okay if I work outside of my home or I don’t work outside of my home?” You have to know that as an international, global, Relief Society president, that question isn’t always appropriate in all of the world’s countries. There are many, many places where if our women don’t work, they don’t eat. So of course they have to work. The question of whether or not to work is the wrong question. The question is, “Am I aligned with the Lord’s vision of me and what He needs me to become, and the roles and responsibilities He gave me in heaven that are not negotiable? Am I aligned with that, or am I trying to escape my duties?” Those are the kinds of things we need to understand. Our Heavenly Father loves His daughters, and because He loves us and the reward at the end is so glorious, we do not get a pass from the responsibilities we were given. We cannot give them away. They are our sacred duties and we fulfill them under covenant.

I have learned and I have heard it taught that the Lord will not do for us what we can do for ourselves. There are consequences to both the choices to have a mother work outside the home and to have a mother stay home. Continue reading

Choices Have Consequences: Part I

for mwsThis article is to the young adult women of the Church. I have had a few conversations recently, coupled with some other experiences that have prompted me to speak up. In one recent conversation many young women were angered at the idea that their choices would have anything but good consequences. They expected that God would bless them fully no matter what choices they made, as well as the common misconception that all choices are equal. This is simply not true. All choices do have consequences, God does not bless us all equally, and all choices are not equal.

Remember in D&C 130:20-21, we are taught:

20 There is a law, irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated—

21 And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated.

This means that we cannot expect blessings for gospel principles of which we refuse to obey, or even which we have not studied out. Continue reading

I Enjoy Being A Girl! And a Wife, Mother, Daughter, and Sister

lamanites and nephitesWhen our children were young, we used to play a made-up game for FHE. At dinnertime, my husband would announce, “let’s play Nephites and Lamanites tonight!” and a whoop would rise to the rafters while I would silently moan unnoticed and ignored.

 

The family would divide into two teams. It wasn’t about being on the “good” team or the “bad” team, because both teams had to be sneaky, cunning, and daring. After hiding a washcloth somewhere in their “territory” (living room or family room), the objective was to send scouts out to find the other team’s washcloth while guards stayed back to protect their own.

 

There were two serious problems with this well-loved game:

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World Congress of Families Report: The Distinctive Roles of Mothers and Fathers in Families

distinctive role of mother and fatherConcurrent Session #6: The Distinctive Roles of Mothers and Fathers in Families

Dr. Candi Finch (Chair)

Jenet Jacob Erickson, Ruel Haymond, Warwich Marsh, Miriam Grossman MD

This segment was EXTREMELY full to overflowing! There were easily 4 times more people standing than there were seated in the chairs. It definitely was a standing room only ordeal. I will give you an overview of what the bulk of the speakers discussed then, bullet points of some specifics.

It appeared to me that the speakers spent more of their time regarding the importance of fathers in the marriage, home, or equation, than all about the mothers role. This was the case with the two male speakers for sure and Jenet spent a good amount of time with both genders. Dr. Grossman did speak primarily about the uniqueness of motherhood and the science behind it.

Jenet Erikson: Dad’s Don’t Mother, and Mom’s Don’t Father Continue reading

A Crowded Boat

primary-class-609711-galleryYou grew up in the Church, attended Primary. Your father baptised you when you were eight. Soon you graduated, and went on to Young Women’s, where you eagerly completed the Personal Progress program. You were diligent in living a gospel centered life. You tried your best in every calling and went the extra mile in service. You did well at school, got a part-time job, and saved your money. As soon as you could, you held a temple recommend.

brisbane-australia-temple-lds-766362-galleryYour dreams came true. A wonderful young man came into your life. He had honourably returned from a mission. You had a beautiful courtship and then marriage in the temple. You were surrounded by family—his family and yours—and the day was beautiful.

Later, you welcomed a new member of the family as your first child arrived. The years rolled by, more children came along. You were a happy mother. Some of the stresses that go with young motherhood were yours, but you had a strong family and good friends. Your husband did well in school, and secured a good job. Everything was good. Continue reading

Mothering: A Necessary Influence

mother and child2In the Family Proclamation we are clearly reminded of woman’s ability to mother, or nurture, when it tells us, “Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children.” This responsibility is a natural part of our DNA as women. It comes out without our even having to think about it, unless it is discouraged, frowned upon, or redirected by the world and its counterfeit pleasures.

Mothering has always been the loving influence necessary in teaching and inspiring the next generation. Civilization is based on a man and a woman marrying and raising children to continue the cycle. Without this divine responsibility, there is no sense of selfless service in raising children, no mothering, and ultimately, no future for the rising generation.

Thousands of years ago mankind was taught, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and mother and child3when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). Also this, “Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward” (Psalms 127:3). And finally, “That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children; that they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments” (Psalms 78:6-7).

President David O. McKay once told of an experience during his college days. While walking down the street with his family, passing some houses, they heard some ugly screaming and yelling. He knocked on the window to stop the attack as they all waited for the police to arrive. When the door was opened, young McKay glimpsed for the first time in his life a drunken woman with two crying daughters. Years later, while teaching in a reform school, he was introduced to these two sisters now grown. He stated, “They were not to blame—victims of an evil environment into which the mother had led them” (Gospel Ideals, pp. 451-452). Continue reading

Happy Imperfect Mother’s Day

This fantastic letter came via an author who wrote it as an anonymous Mother’s Day post for all to enjoy. We love the way she expressed everything we might have thought, but haven’t been able to verbalize.

p.s. This might make you cry happy tears.

mother-holding-baby-1202642-galleryHey, Mom.
 
Do you remember the first time we saw each other?
 
I licked the air with my baby tongue, tasting the world.
 
You watched my face, tender tears in your eyes. You believed I was absolutely perfect. A gift from Heaven.
 
How would you find the energy and strength to meet my constant infant needs and demands? How could you give your perfect child a perfect life? How would you teach me everything I needed to know? You were scared.
 
As I gazed into your eyes, I witnessed an immensity of raw emotion. I saw your fear, as well as love, concern, desperation, wonder, vulnerability, and apprehension.
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Were Women Ordained to Motherhood Before Birth?

Divine MotherhoodMother, mothering, and motherhood: each is a facet of the beautiful and divine nature of every daughter of God. To separate one facet of our eternal role as women is to minimize our divine destiny made possible through the Atonement of Jesus Christ: eternal motherhood. The Family Proclamation teaches the eternal and absolute doctrinal truth that gender is eternal. Our spirits were created either male or female before our mortal birth. Femaleness is not a social construct but is both biologically and physiologically created and stored in the DNA of every female soul by loving Heavenly Parents.

“That women were born into this earth female was determined long before mortal birth, as were the divine differences of males and females. I love the clarity of the teachings of the First Presidency and the Quorum of the Twelve in the Proclamation on the Family. They state: “Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.” From that statement we are taught that every girl was feminine and female in spirit long before her mortal birth.” (Margaret D. Nadauld, “What You Are Meant to Be,” New Era, Oct. 2002.)

Divine WomanhoodThe simple, yet glorious truth is that because we are female, we are inherently mothers. The state of motherhood is gender specific and is what compels the acts of mothering in different ways and stages of our lives. For reasons unknown, not every woman here in mortality has the opportunity to give birth. The full glory of our divine nature as females will be when every facet of being a daughter of God is made manifest—having become as our Heavenly Mother: exalted. Continue reading

A Mother’s Conversation with God

Robertson-109bA part of being a mother in Zion is learning to have conversations with Heavenly Father. Mothers need divine guidance in creating a family of God. My husband and I try to include God in both the creating and parenting of our children. I know that when I make Heavenly Father a part of my daily decisions in the bearing and rearing of my children, He grants me peace and confidence that I do not have otherwise. Over the years, I’ve had a few conversations with Heavenly Father. Recently, I talked much with God about His plan for sending children to my family.

Nearly five years ago before the birth of my eighth child, I wanted with all my heart to be done having kids. We started having children immediately after we married, I was on my tenth pregnancy, and I was tired of being pregnant and nursing. I wanted to finally get on to the next phase of my life. I felt stuck in this phase of pregnancy–nurse baby–repeat. I thought that I could not raise my kids properly until I was finished with that cycle. I prayed and I prayed but never got the spiritual confirmation that I was done having children. Eventually, I quit asking. A couple months later in the temple, I felt impressed that we would have one more boy. I was okay with that and felt like I could be pregnant one more time for one more boy. Continue reading