Category Archives: Motherhood

Guest Post: Standing to Positively Influence the Rising Generation

I wish I could say I have some powerful, testimony-building experience of “standing,” but I don’t. I’m not an incredible wordsmith or talented debater like so many I know on social media who are able to eloquently and gracefully state facts and defend beliefs, but as I stopped to ask myself if and how I “stand,” I read something that President Russell M. Nelson stated in his 2015 General Conference address:

“Today, let me add that we need women who know how to make important things happen by their faith and who are courageous defenders of morality and families in a sin-sick world. We need women who are devoted to shepherding God’s children along the covenant path toward exaltation; women who know how to receive personal revelation, who understand the power and peace of the temple endowment; women who know how to call upon the powers of heaven to protect and strengthen children and families; women who teach fearlessly.”

I stand when I defend my home against the adversary with regular Family Home Evening, regular temple attendance, dedicated Sabbath worship, daily prayer and scripture study, both personal and family. It is in these small and simple daily moments that I am trying to make important things happen, courageously defending morality and family, shepherding my little ones along the covenant path, striving to receive personal revelation, seeking to call down the powers of heaven to protect and strengthen my family, and trying to teach fearlessly. This is how I stand. Continue reading

Answer the Call to Defend the Family!

family with many childrenThere is no question there is an attack on the family. Just scan the headlines of any news outlet and you’ll find startling evidence of the strategic ways the adversary is trying to destroy this most beautiful and basic of human relationships.

How do we counteract all of these attempts to redefine the traditional family out of existence? The Family: A Proclamation to the World tells us: “We call upon responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.”

We start right where we are: in our own homes, in our schools, in our communities. We teach the truths, live the truths, taught in the Proclamation.  Our examples will speak louder than any words we might say but at times words are necessary to defend truth. If we have our examples to back up our words others are more likely to listen. Continue reading

Guest Post: Loving the Choice of Motherhood

I was a young girl in the 70s, a teenager in the 80s, and a young mother in the 90s.  I have seen a lot of changes when it comes to how women view motherhood and are viewed in the world.  I started taking a stand early on.  As we were asked what kind of career we wanted in Junior High and High School my reply was always the same.  I wanted to be a wife and mother.  The reply was, no really what do you want to have as a career?  Even then my choice was not a popular one.  I have raised a son and two daughters to adulthood and I currently have a 6-year-old girl at home.

“ The Family A Proclamation to the World”  made the Church’s position on motherhood quite clear and that council has not changed.  President Hinckley stated that he hoped mothers who were working were working for financial necessities like food and clothing and not luxuries like nice cars and such. This position is not a popular one in the world or in many instances for members of the Church.  As a mother and as a member of the young women’s presidency I have emphasized this teaching.  Yes, it is good for young women to get an education, but do not go deeply into debt doing it.  If you are heavily in debt and your husband is heavily in debt once your education is completed then you will have no choice but to work to repay the debt instead of focusing on being a wife and mother. Continue reading

Mothers in the Scriptures

Motherhood isalt-lake-temple-pioneer-family-lds-770842-gallerys one of the most important aspects of the Plan of Salvation. Without it, none of us would be here in our mortal bodies. When discussing mothers and motherhood, I find it fitting to think about and study ancient women who serve as wonderful examples of what kind of mothers and women we should be. Although there are many wonderful women in the scriptures, I have chosen to highlight five: Eve, the Mother of Moses, Namoi, Mary the Mother of Jesus, and Sariah from the Book of Mormon.

Eve

Eve was the very first mortal mother on this earth. She was given the ability to bear children when she partook of the forbidden fruit and was cast out of the Garden of Eden with Adam. She was given the name Eve “because she was the mother of all living.” (Genesis 3:20) In fact, Eve means “life” in Hebrew.

We know from the book of Moses that Adam and Eve had many more children than Cain, Abel and Seth. “And Adam knew his wife and she bare unto him sons and daughters, and they began to multiply and to replenish the earth.” (Moses 5:2) The Book of Moses also goes into a deeper description of the type of woman Eve was. Moses 5:1 says that Eve labored with Adam. In verse 11 Eve says, “Were it not for our transgression we never should have known good and evil, and the joy of our redemption, and the eternal life which God giveth unto all the obedient.” Then in verse 12 Eve taught her children. Continue reading

I Enjoy Being A Girl! And a Wife, Mother, Daughter, and Sister

lamanites and nephitesWhen our children were young, we used to play a made-up game for FHE. At dinnertime, my husband would announce, “let’s play Nephites and Lamanites tonight!” and a whoop would rise to the rafters while I would silently moan unnoticed and ignored.

 

The family would divide into two teams. It wasn’t about being on the “good” team or the “bad” team, because both teams had to be sneaky, cunning, and daring. After hiding a washcloth somewhere in their “territory” (living room or family room), the objective was to send scouts out to find the other team’s washcloth while guards stayed back to protect their own.

 

There were two serious problems with this well-loved game:

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World Congress of Families Report: The Distinctive Roles of Mothers and Fathers in Families

distinctive role of mother and fatherConcurrent Session #6: The Distinctive Roles of Mothers and Fathers in Families

Dr. Candi Finch (Chair)

Jenet Jacob Erickson, Ruel Haymond, Warwich Marsh, Miriam Grossman MD

This segment was EXTREMELY full to overflowing! There were easily 4 times more people standing than there were seated in the chairs. It definitely was a standing room only ordeal. I will give you an overview of what the bulk of the speakers discussed then, bullet points of some specifics.

It appeared to me that the speakers spent more of their time regarding the importance of fathers in the marriage, home, or equation, than all about the mothers role. This was the case with the two male speakers for sure and Jenet spent a good amount of time with both genders. Dr. Grossman did speak primarily about the uniqueness of motherhood and the science behind it.

Jenet Erikson: Dad’s Don’t Mother, and Mom’s Don’t Father Continue reading

A Crowded Boat

primary-class-609711-galleryYou grew up in the Church, attended Primary. Your father baptised you when you were eight. Soon you graduated, and went on to Young Women’s, where you eagerly completed the Personal Progress program. You were diligent in living a gospel centered life. You tried your best in every calling and went the extra mile in service. You did well at school, got a part-time job, and saved your money. As soon as you could, you held a temple recommend.

brisbane-australia-temple-lds-766362-galleryYour dreams came true. A wonderful young man came into your life. He had honourably returned from a mission. You had a beautiful courtship and then marriage in the temple. You were surrounded by family—his family and yours—and the day was beautiful.

Later, you welcomed a new member of the family as your first child arrived. The years rolled by, more children came along. You were a happy mother. Some of the stresses that go with young motherhood were yours, but you had a strong family and good friends. Your husband did well in school, and secured a good job. Everything was good. Continue reading

Mothering: A Necessary Influence

mother and child2In the Family Proclamation we are clearly reminded of woman’s ability to mother, or nurture, when it tells us, “Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children.” This responsibility is a natural part of our DNA as women. It comes out without our even having to think about it, unless it is discouraged, frowned upon, or redirected by the world and its counterfeit pleasures.

Mothering has always been the loving influence necessary in teaching and inspiring the next generation. Civilization is based on a man and a woman marrying and raising children to continue the cycle. Without this divine responsibility, there is no sense of selfless service in raising children, no mothering, and ultimately, no future for the rising generation.

Thousands of years ago mankind was taught, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and mother and child3when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). Also this, “Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward” (Psalms 127:3). And finally, “That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children; that they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments” (Psalms 78:6-7).

President David O. McKay once told of an experience during his college days. While walking down the street with his family, passing some houses, they heard some ugly screaming and yelling. He knocked on the window to stop the attack as they all waited for the police to arrive. When the door was opened, young McKay glimpsed for the first time in his life a drunken woman with two crying daughters. Years later, while teaching in a reform school, he was introduced to these two sisters now grown. He stated, “They were not to blame—victims of an evil environment into which the mother had led them” (Gospel Ideals, pp. 451-452). Continue reading

Happy Imperfect Mother’s Day

This fantastic letter came via an author who wrote it as an anonymous Mother’s Day post for all to enjoy. We love the way she expressed everything we might have thought, but haven’t been able to verbalize.

p.s. This might make you cry happy tears.

mother-holding-baby-1202642-galleryHey, Mom.
 
Do you remember the first time we saw each other?
 
I licked the air with my baby tongue, tasting the world.
 
You watched my face, tender tears in your eyes. You believed I was absolutely perfect. A gift from Heaven.
 
How would you find the energy and strength to meet my constant infant needs and demands? How could you give your perfect child a perfect life? How would you teach me everything I needed to know? You were scared.
 
As I gazed into your eyes, I witnessed an immensity of raw emotion. I saw your fear, as well as love, concern, desperation, wonder, vulnerability, and apprehension.
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Were Women Ordained to Motherhood Before Birth?

Divine MotherhoodMother, mothering, and motherhood: each is a facet of the beautiful and divine nature of every daughter of God. To separate one facet of our eternal role as women is to minimize our divine destiny made possible through the Atonement of Jesus Christ: eternal motherhood. The Family Proclamation teaches the eternal and absolute doctrinal truth that gender is eternal. Our spirits were created either male or female before our mortal birth. Femaleness is not a social construct but is both biologically and physiologically created and stored in the DNA of every female soul by loving Heavenly Parents.

“That women were born into this earth female was determined long before mortal birth, as were the divine differences of males and females. I love the clarity of the teachings of the First Presidency and the Quorum of the Twelve in the Proclamation on the Family. They state: “Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.” From that statement we are taught that every girl was feminine and female in spirit long before her mortal birth.” (Margaret D. Nadauld, “What You Are Meant to Be,” New Era, Oct. 2002.)

Divine WomanhoodThe simple, yet glorious truth is that because we are female, we are inherently mothers. The state of motherhood is gender specific and is what compels the acts of mothering in different ways and stages of our lives. For reasons unknown, not every woman here in mortality has the opportunity to give birth. The full glory of our divine nature as females will be when every facet of being a daughter of God is made manifest—having become as our Heavenly Mother: exalted. Continue reading