Category Archives: Fatherhood

Guest Stand: The Longing for a Father

FatherhoodMissing Him for 548 Days

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. I’ve always known this to be true in my life. Being away from my family for 18 months to serve a full-time mission for the Church reminded me of how much I love my family. I learned to love them even more while being away for such a long period of time. One of my most memorable moments was when I was coming down the escalator in the Salt Lake City airport searching for my family among many strangers. Once I saw their beaming faces I ran toward them. The first person I hugged was my dad. I was so overcome with emotion that I began to cry. I had not been in his arms for 548 days.

My dad is the one who always gave me the advice that I needed to hear in my life. He called me “baby girl,” and he still does because I am the youngest girl in my family. He is kind and loving towards others. He has been the perfect example and mentor that I needed throughout my childhood and adult life. Throughout my mission, I received an email from him every week without fail and he always told me what I needed to hear. All of these experiences have made me reflect on what life would be like without this great man in my life. Continue reading

Fathers, Be Good To Your Daughters

“Pop icon Katy Perry once said, ‘I don’t need a dude to have children.  We are living in the future. I’m not anti-men. I love men. But there is an option if someone doesn’t present himself.’  . . . I’m going to spend the next little while addressing this statement, and say, ‘Katy, if you have a daughter, she will need a man as a father-figure.”

That was BYU-Idaho professor Dr. Timothy Rarick’s opening message to a packed audience of UN diplomats and international guests in his recent presentation on the impact of fathers at the United Nations Commission on the Status of Women (CSW). Using research, anecdotal stories, and multi-media, Dr. Rarick made a compelling case as to why daughters need fathers, and fathers need daughters. 

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World Congress of Families Report: The Distinctive Roles of Mothers and Fathers in Families

distinctive role of mother and fatherConcurrent Session #6: The Distinctive Roles of Mothers and Fathers in Families

Dr. Candi Finch (Chair)

Jenet Jacob Erickson, Ruel Haymond, Warwich Marsh, Miriam Grossman MD

This segment was EXTREMELY full to overflowing! There were easily 4 times more people standing than there were seated in the chairs. It definitely was a standing room only ordeal. I will give you an overview of what the bulk of the speakers discussed then, bullet points of some specifics.

It appeared to me that the speakers spent more of their time regarding the importance of fathers in the marriage, home, or equation, than all about the mothers role. This was the case with the two male speakers for sure and Jenet spent a good amount of time with both genders. Dr. Grossman did speak primarily about the uniqueness of motherhood and the science behind it.

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Father’s Day: One Father’s Legacy

Dick Janes abt 1960

Richard C. Janes About 1960

 

I’m 60 years old, and my Dad passed away almost 30 years ago in July of 1985. I can’t believe it has been that long ago. You would think that memories would eventually fade, but they don’t. Dad and Mom left a legacy to their children and grandchildren that will live forever in their stories. In honor of Father’s Day, I’ll share just a few of my favorite memories of Dad. Dad always said his main legacy to us was his sense of humor.  Read on to see why.

 

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Every Child Needs a Dad — It’s Doctrine!

The Dad DoctrineEvery child needs a dad, even though each of us has a biological father. As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we place the highest esteem on the use of the title: Father – as this is how we address our Father in Heaven. Here in mortality, I believe, that sacred designation is earned after one has proven himself a to be a Dad and for most this doesn’t come easy. It’s a lifelong journey of commitment (an inherent covenant), that begins at the birth of a child. This journey then, takes on the rigors of raising the child and continues through adulthood and ultimately till the end of days – never.

“The Lord’s plan of salvation requires that you pass through trials in this mortal life. Those trials seem to be greatest when you reach fatherhood, but be assured—fatherhood, in a sense, is an apprenticeship to godhood.”

 ~ The Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, “Father Consider Your Ways“, Ensign, June, 2002

As we honor the dads in our lives on Father’s Day, I submit that it is in the doing of those things which “dads” do, that compels us to honor him, as Father. Continue reading