Monthly Archives: March 2016

Becoming the Women God Needs

Russel M NelsonIn October 2015, President Nelson gave a landmark talk to women, titled, A Plea to My Sisters.

In it, he prophesied that “attacks against the Church, its doctrine, and our way of life are going to increase.”

Then he named the sort of women needed to withstand these attacks. He said, “we need women who have a bedrock understanding of the doctrine of Christ and who will use that understanding to teach and help raise a sin-resistant generation. We need women who can detect deception in all of its forms. We need women who know how to access the power that God makes available to covenant keepers and who express their beliefs with confidence and charity. We need women who have the courage and vision of our Mother Eve.”

There are five main traits, President Nelson told that women they need to have:

  1. Women who have a bedrock understanding of the doctrine of Christ and who will use that understanding to teach and help raise a sin-resistant generation.
  2. Women who can detect deception in all of its forms.
  3. Women who know how to access the power that God makes available to covenant keepers
  4. Women who express their beliefs with confidence and charity.
  5. Women who have the courage and vision of our Mother Eve.

Myself, like many others, have probably asked how. “How can I become that woman?” After some pondering and visits to the temple, these are my initial answers to how we can become the women President Nelson described: Continue reading

Trust that the Spirit Will Guide You

General-Womens-Session11-2016President Henry B. Eyring continued the theme of service during the April 2016 women’s session of conference in his talk, entitled, Trust in That Spirit Which Leadeth to Do Good . He said that throughout the meeting, the sisters would be “inspired to do more to help our Master in His work to lift up and to succor the children of our Heavenly Father.” I hadn’t thought much about what I should do before he spoke those words, but they prompted me to say a little prayer and ask what I could do.

Like others I have heard from, I enjoyed the conference, but I too wondered how could I fit in more when my life is already so full. I had to evaluate how I use my time. I have 10 children and they all still live with me. I homeschool all but one of those children. I have a constant battle with toys, piles and piles of papers, laundry, dishes, and cooking enough food to fill my growing children. I am spending time trying to make money working from home. We recently moved to a new area and I do not know anyone… I sat back and quickly thought about how I use my time. Continue reading

Does Your Sherem Shake You?

Sherem 4 Sherem. Though it’s an uncommon name, we all know at least one, and probably several. We might work with a Sherem or two; maybe there are team moms or room mothers with a Sherem, and maybe some of you have a few living on your street. There are Sherems in your yoga class, your biology class, and in every social class. The television, movies, and social media are populated by Sherems. Your ward has got a few and when multiplied by the number of units in your stake, well the number of Sherems in those boundaries would surprise you. But most disheartening to realize is that we have Sherems, though called by other names, perched in the branches of our own family trees.

Meet Sherem

Not long ago my husband and I were reading in the book of Jacob in the Book of Mormon. Here the prophet Jacob, Nephi’s brother, records an experience he had with a Sherem in his life–literally.  He wrote…. Continue reading

The New Math – Dividing is Multiplying

Math 2I am not a math whiz. And I’m pretty sure that many in that field in academia would say the following is impossible, but I have found over and over again that dividing is multiplying. Well, love, that is, when divided multiplies. The more people you give yourself to – your love, concern, time, and caring –  the more of those parts of you there seem to be to share with others again.

 

Sister Neill F. Marriott’s words rang clear and true to me when she spoke at the General Women’s Session of the 186th Annual General Conference of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, as she related the story of ‘Aunt Carol’…

                            “Love is making space in your life for someone else…”

I have seen this new spiritual math manifest it’s dependable results in my life in numerous ways. Continue reading

Guest Stand: When Divorce Happens

LDS divorceThe door slammed shut as if it were shouting, “Goodbye old house!”  I locked the door behind him and then stood in the kitchen with my hands shaking and my heart pounding.  “Did I do the right thing?”  I heard a noise behind me and turned to see my 5-year-old son looking at me with wide eyes.  “Are you okay, buddy?  I am so sorry.  That was scary, wasn’t it?”  He nodded as he climbed into my arms.  Within a few minutes I felt a sense of calm and peace wash over me.  This was the right choice for our situation, but it came at great cost to me and my little family.  This was one of the most difficult days of my life – and my children’s.  Our divorce was final several months later.

A few years later I arrived home after driving hundreds of miles across the desert so the kids could stay with their dad for most of the summer.  As I walked through the door I immediately saw a note on the whiteboard in the hallway.  It was in my son’s handwriting and read, “Goodbye old house…and mom.”  It was one of many sweet notes that my kids have secretly left behind over the ensuing eight years since my marriage ended.  These treasures are written in child’s scrawl and say things from “love you” to “miss you” to “be home soon” and have been found tacked to walls, left on tables, or written in steam on the bathroom mirror. Continue reading

And None Were With Him–An Apostle’s Easter Thoughts on Christ

“May we declare ourselves to be more fully disciples of the Lord Jesus Christ, not in word only and not in the flush of comfortable times, but in deed and in courage and in faith. May we stand by Jesus Christ at all times, and in all things, and in all places that we may be in, even until death, for surely that is how He stood by us when it was unto death and when He had to stand entirely and utterly alone.”  —Elder Jeffrey R. Holland

 

Guest Stand: Strong Women Needed Now

rp_Strong-Women-300x300.png“The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world.” William Ross Wallace

This world is full of jobs and careers.  Jobs and careers that we get to choose.  Recently I came across a video on YouTube that illustrated what the World’s Toughest Job is, and it is not what you would expect. This video proceeds to interview different people for a job and gives qualifications like no salary, 24 hours a day, and no breaks, not even to sleep. The World’s toughest job is then revealed to be:  MOM.

24 hours a day, 365 days a year my mom wakes up, rolls over and begins her day. A day filled with taking care of others and being selfless. Not only is she a mother, but she is a caregiver as well.  She cares for my dad.  A 54-year-old man with Multiple Sclerosis who is bound to a wheelchair for the rest of his life.

How could she do that? How could she choose every day to dress him, tie his shoes, and even cut up his food at times? Doesn’t she know that makes her a weak woman? Doesn’t she know that caring for children on top of caring for a man is incredibly humiliating and degrading to her sex? Why by her own free will would she subject herself to something that is so taxing and demanding? Continue reading

Provo City Center Temple

completeWhen the Provo City Center Temple was announced, by Pres. Monson, on Oct 1, 2011, a gasp could be heard in the Conference Center. A fire had destroyed this beautiful, and beloved building and to turn it into a temple was a merciful revelation from the Lord.

 

I sang in Christmas concerts many times in that building, and even attended stake conference there, as a married student at BYU. This building was most certainly beloved by all who knew Original towerfirsthand of the beauty, and history, within its walls.

 

There is a sweet history that goes along with this building. Richard O. Cowan (retired professor of Religion at BYU) has been a member of the stake presidency, as this building has been renovated, and has had the privilege of watching it be born again. He gave a presentation on the remarkable circumstances that surround the rebirth.

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Fighting Against Evil to Preserve the Laws of God

council-in-heaven-mormon-doctrineThere is a battle going on all around us. The fight is against Good and Evil. Where Evil is trying to convince us there is no evil, only “honesty within one’s self”, Good is trying to defend, protect, and honor the God of all goodness.

 

God has taught us that there are eternal laws, that are absolute, that even He must obey. “There is a law irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated–” (D&C 130:20). “If they would not repent they must suffer even as I; which suffering caused myself, even God, the greatest of all, to tremble because of pain, and to bleed at every pore, and to suffer both body and spirit–and would that I might not drink the bitter cup, and shrink–Nevertheless, glory be to the Father, and I partook” (D&C 19:18-19) Continue reading

Guest Stand: The Difference Between Questions and Doubts

Questions and doubtsThe two words “questions” and “doubts” are often interchanged when discussing concerns, confusion, or misunderstandings with Church doctrine, history, and policy. However, there is a difference between having questions and having doubts. It is important to understand this difference so that we know how to handle questions or doubts when we come across them in our personal lives. An article in the March 2015 issue of the Ensign by Adam Kotter, “When Doubts and Questions Arise” discusses this exact issue.

Brother Kotter defined questions and doubts as the following:

“A sincere questioner continues to be obedient while searching for answers. By contrast, I have seen that when people doubt their beliefs they often suspend their commitment to commandments and covenants while waiting for answers.”

Essentially, the difference between questions and doubts is how we respond to them. When we stay active in our callings, Church attendance, scripture study, and prayer, our questions are simply that: questions. When we stop doing those things, our questions can very quickly become doubts. That doesn’t mean that we should never ask questions, we just need to go about the right way in searching for answers. Brother Kotter regularly uses the terms “sincere questioner” and “sincere questions.” Meaning that when we ask a question, we are searching for God’s true answer, and when we find that answer we should be willing to accept it. He warns us of “talking yourself into the answers you want to believe rather than receiving true answers from God.” Continue reading